Write a thank you note to yourself.

Thank you Ivy for giving hope a chance. For finding that you have more light in you than you ever thought you needed.

For letting yourself love and be loved. For giving God the chance to heal your beautiful soul.

For letting yourself be so full of joy that you have enough for your tribe. For being there for me when no one else was.

For letting yourself be understood, by yourself and letting go of pretense.

You look into my eyes each morning and assure me I will be okay. I am beauty. You amaze me every day darling.

I love you forever. This is for you.

Sweeter than you will ever know, because you struggle to believe what you’ve been told.

Stronger than a thousand sunsets, you are my moon. I long to romance you for eternity.

As I write this to let you know that I will be with you for now and always.

I choose to make you mine.

Love, Ivy

What should be taught in Kenyan schools…

 

I didn’t go to school in Kenya, but I am Kenyan so I feel like I am entitled to post something about this.  Correct me if I am wrong. There are a few things I don’t understand about the Kenyan education system, but in the spirit of adding to the system instead of judging it, let’s talk about the things I wish would be taught in Kenyans schools right now.

 

 Money matters

Personally, most of my knowledge of finance and money management came from my parents, who are business people, among other things. The rest of it came from my youth leader from my church back in Botswana. She taught me how to keep track of my money and how to save effectively. I find that most of my friends and colleagues that I have met in my six years in Kenya have a gap in knowledge in this area. I’m not saying that I’ve found my footing, if we are being honest who has? but I have a foundation in this. I think it would be great if all young people in Kenya had this. We could build better businesses and better lives.

Communication

I, like most people, have had my fair share of communication issues. This is another area I am still working on. But let’s imagine for a minute that in the first year of university or better yet, the first year of high school I learned how to communicate effectively with my peers. If I learned how to recognize and interact with different personality types, I can say I would definitely be in a better place in my life.

Psychology

This point is tied to the point of communication. We weren’t taught the importance of mental health and how it ties in with our physical well-being. This is not a direct cause of the high incidences of mental illness in my age group, but it would’ve helped to have therapists to speak to us in high school when our hormones levels were higher and our personalities were at a critical stage of development.

Civility

This is something that’s essential to effective human interaction. It is something that isn’t focused on as much as it should in Nairobi, and in Kenya. You don’t have to like everyone you meet, but you should be able to treat them with some level of decency. This is something that we can learn at any age, and we should have been learning this whole time.

Sex education

This is a big one. We are taught abstinence as the main point of sexual education if anything at all. We should be taught about everything. Yes, I mean, everything and all the awkwardness that comes with it. Things like forms and types of protection from STIs and their effectiveness. The biology of sex itself. The emotional, physiological and psychological effects of the sexual act. What your options are if you fall pregnant, or if you get an STI or HIV/AIDS.

 

 

I am a firm believer that knowledge gives us power. And ignorance isn’t quite bliss. Just because you don’t see the danger doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Just because you see the good in something, that doesn’t mean it can’t be great.

 

Learn more with me, friends.

Any additions, questions or comments are welcome

 

Xxx

Mwiitu wa Mbula